SEX and YOUR DESTINY-March 2008

Sex and your Destiny
Sexpurecentric Friendship Leaders manual for the month of March 2008
Introduction
Sex is universal and great but it has an ideal environment. Most human beings live life as if they are in control of life and as if we are going to be here forever. If we all come to terms with the fact that Bill Gates, Richard Branson, David Oyedepo, Enoch Adeboye, Gamaliel Onosode etc are all human beings like us who live in the same world with us then we would be challenged to aspire to fulfill our destiny. We can do better than they are doing at the moment.
Every human being here is here for a purpose but only a few will ever get to truly maximize themselves and get to their destiny. Success has been defined as what you have done compared to what you could have done and that is why we can not settle for mediocrity.
But between what we want to become in life and where we are now are some disguised pleasure that will seek to distract us and has already destroyed so many people.

POINTS for discussion
Week 1

-Destiny and sexual relationships

– Mike Tyson & Bill Clinton,

Quote - 'The only thing working against Hillary Clinton(Bill Clinton's wife) at the moment is the fact that she goes by the name Clinton' - BBC news

Mike Tyson - No boxer in his generation ever punished opponents the way he did. He conquered everyone that came his way in the ring knocking them out before the 5th round and was on his way to becoming the greatest boxer ever until he started having issues with his sex life. from rape to assault he found himself jailed and imprisoned. he tried to return to the ring but was no longer the iron Mike Tyson we used to know and today has become bankrupt, a shadow of himself. He was another destiny lost to sexual immorality

BILL CLINTON- He became one of the most loved President of the most powerful country in the world. He went all over the world helping different countries but unknown to many he was secretly having an affair with Monica Lewisky an unknown lady. Eventually the secret blew open and he was disgraced. He was eventually impeached and the scandal still haunts him up till now and may go a long way in preventing his wife of becoming the first female president of America. another destiny lost to sexual immorality

QUESTIONS FOR DISCUSSION

• How did sex affect their destiny
• Does sex wastes precious times that could have been invested in destiny?
• Does sex cut short your ability to reach for your destiny?
• Do you think the guy that wants to sleep with you respect your destiny?
• Is it really true that a guy that loves you sleeps with you?
• If sex enhances relationships how come our parents remained stagnant?

• How do we handle the sexual pressures – friendship based on value
• Determination
• Discipline
• Right information

Week 2

- Destiny and AIDS –

The Magic Johnson example

known as one of the greatest basketball players to have graced the court. He held the world spellbound by his ability to do the unthinkable with the big ball but couldn't control his sexual appetite. Eventually he discovered at his peak that he was HIV positive. There was a huge disagreement if he should continue playing as many players stigmatized him. Eventually he had to retire and that was the end of one of the finest players that never fulfilled his potential.

Question
• If magic Johnson had practiced sexual purity would he have been cut short?
• What were the effects of his contracting AIDS on his destiny?
• Can we really trust condom to prevent AIDS? i once met a lady who became pregnant more than 3 times despite trusting the Condom. Even the manual on every condom says it is not 100% safe.
• Can we really fulfill our destiny even with AIDS?
• How do you discover a partner with AIDS?

Week 3 -Destiny and unwanted pregnancy –

How come we have so many young ladies become petty trader? Have you not seen any of your friends lose their lives to abortion before? Cancer of the neck of the womb(cervical cancer) has been known to be caused by early exposure to sexual activities)

Every year so many destinies are lost to unwanted pregnancy and abortion. These are the best scholars we never had; the best doctors we never had; the best politicians we never had simply because we lost them to abortion.

so many young ladies that dropped out of school due to unwanted pregnancy never recovered and we still have them with us today.

Questions for discussion
• Is it easy for a pregnant teenager to pursue her dreams?
• Why do people go for abortion and what are the likely effects?
• How do we overcome financial pressures?
• How much can sex really give us if we engage in it for money?
• Do we have people around who stopped school as a result of pregnancy and were they able to fulfill their destiny?

Week 4 –

What makes you think you will survive?
• Mike Tyson never survived sex with his heavyweight belt intact
• Bill Clinton never survived Monica Lewinsky
• Samson Manoah never survived the lap of Delilah
• Solomon never survived his uncontrollable sexual appetite he ended his life by declaring all as vanity.
• David never survived his sex scandal

- Reuben the first born of Jacob lost his plac to sex sins

We may never survived AIDS if we fail to control our sexual appetite. One major thing that has prevented so many great men from fulfilling their destiny is their inability to control their sexual lives.
If you can’t control your sex life now it would be difficult to control it when you become great.
You are not yet a news and that is why your fall hasn’t attracted attention but you must know that when you become a news your sex secrets can serve as a blackmail to edge you out of destiny.

Imagine if a lady comes out today to talk about how she had sex with Bill Gates, Oyedepo, Adeboye, or how Nelson Mandela sexually abused her.
The devil’s best bet against our destiny is to set the sex trap for us. He either uses it to blackmail or kill us.
When we do sex as married people, it helps our credibility as role models but when we do it outside marriage, it could have the following effects:
• Lose focus
• Lose our lives to AIDS and abortions
• Early marriages
• People could use it to blackmail us
• Lose our trust, integrity and place

Questions they must answer
1. Where am I going in life?
2. What do I need to get there?
3. What role does sex has to play in it now?
4. What are the advantages/disadvantages of engaging in sex now?
5. What must we do to keep our body and focus on our dreams?
6. Let them draw up a relationship plan for 5years to indicate when and why they intend to have sex.

Conclusion – Destiny demands diligence. People who get into sex too early cut short their destiny and many never fully recover to take their place. But if we don’t burden ourselves with unnecessary relationships we have enough time for what matters to us and it even opens us up to the right people that will enhance our destiny. If you fail to arrive your destiny, it is your entire fault.
It is better you say No to that guy/lady now so that you can keep your focus than get into sex in the name of pleasure and spend the rest of your life as a nobody wherever you are now A word is enough for a wise person.
It is all about you.