उन्द्रेस्सिंग SEX -2

SEX TALKBACK with PRAISE O FOWOWE
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Vision 2007: Reach 10000 families with the right sexual values through the sex-pure-centric project re-orientation

UNDRESSING SEX 2
It has been said that when righteous people keep quiet in the face of injustice they give the license to iniquity to prevail. I believe the reason for gross darkness in our world right now was because we all permitted it. In the same vein, the reason for sexual abuse and sexual promiscuity among our youths is because we have permitted it. As a matter of fact that we still have HIV/AIDS around is because we still permit it.
If you must know some people’s prosperity is in the continued existence of HIV/AIDS. What prayers do you think the condom manufacturers are praying each day they wake up? If there is no AIDS anymore what do you think will happen to their business? I am sure you are beginning to warm up to the reality of why we are all yet to unanimously agree on abstinence. For every pack of condom we buy someone dies (emotionally) while someone else smiles to the bank. Let me on this note welcome you to your soar away column.
So many of you were surprised at the statistics I released last week. As a matter of my friends one of my friends found it unbelievable until I showed her the statistics of the sexual behavior among 12-15year old people. It will shock you to know the level of sexual discussions that go on in the homes even sometimes in our presence and we are sometimes smiling yet ignorant of the discussion. For example there was a particular lady that sent a mail to her mum with a certain e-mail address which to her was nothing but just seeing it I knew she was a part of the girls’ lesbian network. How about your boys discussing about the courageous girl in their class. Courage to you means fearlessness right? But to them it is all about a big breasted lady. I think part of the problem is that we are still trying to use the 18th century knowledge to raise a 21st century child.
Some of you were surprised at the responses you got from last week’s assignment but may I submit to you that if you were asked to answer the same question you may not even be able to effectively define it because your parents never gave you any definition.
Sex is arguably the most controversial subject in our world at the moment. Different people have attached different emotions and interpretation to it and this in my reckoning is the most important challenge we are faced with.
Sex is universal, as a matter of fact that is about the only thing that parents engage in that they find so difficult to explain to their children. I get calls all the time from mothers especially asking for the simplest and easiest way of teaching sex at home without necessarily exposing their children to the depths of sex. The question I often ask them is “what is sex in your own reckoning”. Most of the time that is where it all ends because most of them are not able to explain what sex really is simply because they learnt sex the way their children might eventually learn it.
Most of the time the only sex education most mothers give to their daughters is “If you allow any man touch you, you will become pregnant” I want you to notice that the touch wasn’t explained so it’s not impossible to see several ladies cry the first time they were touched by the opposite sex.
So much myth has been built around sex such that we don’t seem to have the right avenue for teaching sex. Religious institutions keep quiet about it most of the time and the only time it is taught it’s more or less a threat of “going to hell” but as we all know threat is not the best motivation when you want to get something done.
Sex has produced joys and sorrows; it has kept couples together and disintegrated some marriages; it has produced the greatest men in the world at the same time produced the greatest threats to our world. Sex has made and destroyed people; it has raised men up and brought great men down; it has made several people financially rich and impoverished several other people emotionally.
The question I need every parent to answer right now is what is your own definition for sex? You and your spouse should answer the question separately and compare notes you would be shocked at your own different perspectives to sex. When couples don’t have the same definition that means there is a disagreement so, there won’t be a uniform knowledge to the child from the parents.
To be continued
Vision 2025: Nigerians will undoubtedly be the most desirable people to live with because Nigeria will have the highest level of sexual purity all over the world.